Human behaviour completely fascinates me, it has been, and I think always will be the course of my studies. I started studying child psychology in the year of 2006 when I first started working professionally with children, and from then on I was bitten by the psychology bug and intrigued with a need to understand people and their behaviour more.
The question that burned at the back of my mind was (and still is today) Why do people behave the way they do? It is a question that will take me through a lifelong journey of study, implementation and questioning of my very own existence. A lifetime journey where no matter how many books I read, courses I take or degree certificates that I pile up on my mantelpiece, this is a subject that will never have an ending or a completely satisfactory answer. The glorious mystery of psychology is that you could have been studying human behaviour one specific way for 5 years, then just reading one sentence in a study textbook could completely change your perspective and blow everything you have learned out of the water. This could then give everything a whole new meaning and re-question everything you just learn to adopt more questions.
However, in all my studies, I have become aware of one thing in human behaviour that has become increasingly problematic. This human trait has become such an intense issue it is starting to affect all of us at least several times in our lives. It cancels out compassion and the appreciation of others. It separates people, breaks up relationships and creates a need for people to think they can walk all over others like a doormat. That my friend is selfish, and I cannot see this human trait disappearing or reducing significantly anytime soon. And, if I were to be completely honest with you, I would say it is becoming an epidemic that is somewhat getting out of control.
It is like the entitlement attitude has become the new fashion accessory, and people are not afraid to wear it. Unfortunately, the repercussions of this entitlement attitude lead to a long, dry, rocky, deserted road of terrible health, loneliness, poverty, or even a sad depletion and death. There is no happy ending when it comes to a selfish attitude, and all that comes to fruition is rotten fruit from which crappy seeds the person first planted.
In theology, I studied and learned that a selfish man never knows the truth and understanding of love, happiness, and freedom. That really what is happening is a selfish person’s acts are creating a whole line of punishments for themselves, and we are not talking little punishments here. We are talking quite huge punishments, ones that will strip you of everything and everyone that you love until you repent and stop acting like a 5-year-old brat.
Interesting uh? So, when I learned that being more compassionate, caring, and appreciative of people became the key to freedom and happiness I took it extremely seriously and decided to give it ago. After all what had I got to lose? Nothing right? At that time of my life, everything seemed to be one train wreck experience after another, so any fate was better than the one I was experiencing at the time, it would be like a vacation in the Bahamas!! So, for me to become less selfish myself, I first had to be made aware of how selfish others are and then become a bitch woman myself. Now, when I say bitch woman, I do not mean a completely evil person that has no consideration for others.
What I mean is I had to become:
Beautiful
Inspirational
Tenacious
Compassionate
Honourable
This is the true breakdown of my new B.I.T.C.H. personality that I had to become to have a happier and most fulfilling life. Now, remember what I said earlier about combating my selfishness I first had to experience the most extreme of entitlement attitude. Well, I did it! Massively, and when I was coaching, teaching, and working with Hollywood TV personalities I experienced some of the most selfish people on the planet that had ZERO compassion for others! Thankfully, not all of them were terrible, and I do still have some close Hollywood actress friends today that are fabulous, but oh boy! Did I have to experience the most entitled attitudes with massive expectations? Now, that may have been one heck of a way to experience these selfish attitudes, but I can tell you what many of these selfish attitudes had in common. They were all either extremely miserable, had bad ill health or they were completely broke! It was the common thread that brought them all together.
This is why I urge you to go from selfish to my definition of bitch, because it will fetch you so much more happiness and fulfilment in life. A life that won’t be filled with misery and have a whole string of poverty awaiting you and people will actually love you and want to spend time with you rather than avoiding you like the plague.
How to Become a B.I.T.C.H
Now I have shared with you why becoming a bitch rocks, you will now need advice on how to become one. Taking the first step to any self-discovery journey is HARD! It is TOUGH! But, oh Lordy! It sure is worth every painful step to take full responsibility for your attitudes and change them. My own journey has made me see things in a way I would never have before and I would not be the person I am today if I had not decided to take the journey to become a B.I.T.C.H. In fact, I know for sure I would be most likely still falling in and out of abusive relationships, have no proper sense of life direction and I know for sure my books would not exist today. I would be on the other side of the fence and be completely selfish, have a stinky entitlement attitude and my past demons would be wrecking my bright future.
The first step to change is accepting you are the reason your life is the way it is today. You are the reason your attitude is the way it is today. You can change the way you think, feel and the actions you take. However, first, you must accept the above and accept YOU are the reason you are the way you are. All the choices you made and continue to make in life will bring you to where you are today, and you made them choices through feeling you made the right decisions at the time.
Selfish people do not take responsibility, they blame everybody else around them for their own actions and become the victim of their own circumstances. So, how do you start to become a B.I.T.C.H.? You take full responsibility for your life and accept you are the one that creates or allows things to happen through the choices you make every single day.
It is only when you take responsibility for your life that you discover how powerful you truly are. – Allanah Hunt
If you feel you are serious about making a change in your life started hanging around with those who have already done it. Start learning how to take responsibility for your life, so that you can implement that change to become the B.I.T.C.H you want to be.
I am glad I went from selfish to B.I.T.C.H. because my life has more meaning, joy, happiness, peace and freedom of soul and no amount of money on God’s green Earth can EVER buy that.
Until Next Time, Your Friend for the Journey
Kate xxx 🙂